Thoughts on Mother’s Day


Yesterday was one of the most celebrated days of the year: Mother’s Day. All across our country, people celebrated the one person who has been there with them from the very beginning. We salute you moms. 

As a pastor of a local church, I know that Mother’s Day is one of the biggest days of the year. As far as church attendance goes, Mother’s Day is usually in the top three of the year with Christmas and Easter. (If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!)

As we are on the other side of this “big day,” I thought that I would share some thoughts that I had about Mother’s Day. 

  • Moms are definitely worth honoring. I have such a great respect and admiration for moms out there. I know that I had a great mom growing up. I know that my wife is the greatest mom on the planet. The “job” that moms do is one that not just anyone can do. It calls for so much of their time, energy, and life. 
  • Mother’s Day may be missing the point. I enjoy a good celebration. I believe that there is nothing wrong with celebrating moms. I just think that it shouldn’t be done one day out of the year. I fear that there are some who see this day as another check on their list – “treated mom today, I’m good for another year.” The Bible tells us that we should honor our parents at all times (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2-3). To set aside one day and honor mom is just lacking on so many levels. 
  • Mother’s Day can be a difficult day. While many enjoy Mother’s Day and all that goes with it, there are many who dread this day. For those who did not have a loving mother, it is hard to get excited about this day. Thoughts of abandonment and mistreatment arise and make this a tough day to get through. For those who have had to walk the painful journey of losing a mother to death, it can be tough. I lost my mother a couple of years ago. This day makes me think about not only the good times I had with her but those days around when I had to say “good-bye.” For those who have had to walk the painful path of losing a child/miscarriage, Mother’s Day is extremely difficult. All those memories and “what ifs” flood one’s heart like few other times. 
  • You don’t have to give birth to be celebrated on Mother’s Day. While I had a great mom, there have been a few people that God has placed in my life that have also played that role to a degree. There are many who are not able to have children of their own, and they feel left out on Mother’s Day. I would like to say to all those ladies out there who are playing the mom role in a child’s life even though it is not biologically yours, THANK YOU!!! You will never know the impact that it makes. Every child needs a mom, and there are many who are desperately looking for that need to be filled in their life. 

I am so thankful to God for the mother that He allowed me to have for so long here on this earth. I am also so thankful for the mother that God has blessed my children with (as I said earlier, she’s the best). I hope that you honored the ladies in your life who play this vital role well. Just don’t let it be a one day out of the year thing. 

What were some of your thoughts coming off of Mother’s Day?

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Give Thanks Day 26

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On this dreary Tuesday, I am very thankful for the gift of music.  I would love to be able to say that I am talented at some instrument or can work a mic with the best of them, but that would be a lie.  I do play a mean radio or CD or iTunes playlist though!

Music is one of the things that God has allowed to be created that touches the heart like few things can.  I can remember joking with some college buddies about the fact that there is a song for virtually anything under the sun.  If you are in a downer mood, there’s always that hope of hearing “that song” on the radio which picks you up.  If you are cruising down the road, a little “Sweet Home Alabama” hits the spot.

God truly knew His creation well when He allowed music to be invented.  It impacts and inspires people like few things on this playground we call earth.  The sad part is that because it is such an powerful tool, it has been perverted in many cases and used for evil (shame).  I truly believe that music was first invented as a means for people to worship God and express their devotion to Him.  I believe that it an also be used to tell a good story or just express how one is feeling, but to use it to destroy what God is seeking to build up is a tragedy.

Give Thanks Day 25

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Today, I am thankful for the Bible.  I know that may seem “understood” coming from a pastor, but I’m not writing this post as a pastor.  I’m writing this as a person who happens to be a pastor.  I have always had a fondness of the Bible.  I was raised in a home where my parents were believers in Jesus Christ.  They thought that the Bible was important.  While other children got stories of bears, dragons, and other characters, my sister and I were told the stories of the Old Testament along with Psalms many times before bed.

bibleI have come to see the Bible as much more than just a good “bedtime” storybook.  It is the only book that I know of that is alive (Hebrews 4:12).  It is not just a collection of thoughts about God, but it is actually the word of God (2 Timothy 3:16-17).  I do not have to wonder what or how God thinks about a topic.  All I have to do is open this letter that He has provided, and He lets me know.

What impact has this wonderful word had on your life?

 

Give Thanks Day 13

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As I continue to move through this month expressing my thanks for various things in my life, I have come to one that is not the easiest. There are some things that come in life that make you want to do everything but give thanks. One such event took place in our family about 8 years ago when we miscarried our first child. My wife has written a great post about that here.

There are some things that are easy to give thanks for, but others – especially in the moment – are not so easy. Finding out that you are having a baby for which you have prayed – easy. Finding out that the heartbeat of that child is no longer there – not so much.

Consider it a great joy, my brothers, whenever you experience various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. But endurance must do its complete work, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing. ~ James 1:2-4 HCSB

These verses from the Bible seem so strange. Be grateful for the trials that come our way? That’s right. Because the sovereign God of the universe has got everything under control. There is nothing that escapes His notice. Because of His proven love for me over and over (and over again), I can say thank You for whatever comes my way – even the trials.

God has used the loss of “Peanut” to teach me to be grateful for all my children. Too many times we think we are entitled to things. We are entitled to NOTHING! Because of that dark day where the heart monitor was silent, I have learned to grab and love my boys every day, because you never know when it will be the last opportunity to do so.

So today, I am thankful for the trials that God is using to make me mature and complete – even though I don’t like them.

Give Thanks Day 9

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After missing yesterday, I need to get back on track with my thankful list. Today, I would like to thank The Lord for allowing college football to be invented. Saturdays in the fall are something I look forward to every year. The competition of the game is like nothing else.

The game of college football provides a much needed release also for me from ministry work. The work of a pastor is on-going. If I’m not careful, I will spend every waking hour thinking, planning, visioning, preparing… If I’m going to make it for the long haul, I need a release. For some time, college football has been that release for me.

If you’re going to talk about college football, you have to talk about the greatest team there is: the Crimson Tide of Alabama. As they prepare to whoop up on some bayou bengals, I’ll make plans to holler “Roll Tide” as much as possible!

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