Thoughts on Mother’s Day

Yesterday was one of the most celebrated days of the year: Mother’s Day. All across our country, people celebrated the one person who has been there with them from the very beginning. We salute you moms. 

As a pastor of a local church, I know that Mother’s Day is one of the biggest days of the year. As far as church attendance goes, Mother’s Day is usually in the top three of the year with Christmas and Easter. (If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!)

As we are on the other side of this “big day,” I thought that I would share some thoughts that I had about Mother’s Day. 

  • Moms are definitely worth honoring. I have such a great respect and admiration for moms out there. I know that I had a great mom growing up. I know that my wife is the greatest mom on the planet. The “job” that moms do is one that not just anyone can do. It calls for so much of their time, energy, and life. 
  • Mother’s Day may be missing the point. I enjoy a good celebration. I believe that there is nothing wrong with celebrating moms. I just think that it shouldn’t be done one day out of the year. I fear that there are some who see this day as another check on their list – “treated mom today, I’m good for another year.” The Bible tells us that we should honor our parents at all times (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2-3). To set aside one day and honor mom is just lacking on so many levels. 
  • Mother’s Day can be a difficult day. While many enjoy Mother’s Day and all that goes with it, there are many who dread this day. For those who did not have a loving mother, it is hard to get excited about this day. Thoughts of abandonment and mistreatment arise and make this a tough day to get through. For those who have had to walk the painful journey of losing a mother to death, it can be tough. I lost my mother a couple of years ago. This day makes me think about not only the good times I had with her but those days around when I had to say “good-bye.” For those who have had to walk the painful path of losing a child/miscarriage, Mother’s Day is extremely difficult. All those memories and “what ifs” flood one’s heart like few other times. 
  • You don’t have to give birth to be celebrated on Mother’s Day. While I had a great mom, there have been a few people that God has placed in my life that have also played that role to a degree. There are many who are not able to have children of their own, and they feel left out on Mother’s Day. I would like to say to all those ladies out there who are playing the mom role in a child’s life even though it is not biologically yours, THANK YOU!!! You will never know the impact that it makes. Every child needs a mom, and there are many who are desperately looking for that need to be filled in their life. 

I am so thankful to God for the mother that He allowed me to have for so long here on this earth. I am also so thankful for the mother that God has blessed my children with (as I said earlier, she’s the best). I hope that you honored the ladies in your life who play this vital role well. Just don’t let it be a one day out of the year thing. 

What were some of your thoughts coming off of Mother’s Day?


Happy Birthday, Mom

20121012-123654.jpg63 years ago today, one of the greatest women to ever walk the planet earth was born. Normally, a woman would not be crazy about someone broadcasting her age all over the world wide web, but I have a feeling that this woman has more important things on her mind, namely seeing Jesus face to face day after day. You see, on January 23, 2011, she went to be with her Savior and Lord.

This woman, like many others, carried many titles: daughter, sister, nurse, friend, wife, and more. To me, there was just one title that she had: mom.

Today, if she were here, we would be celebrating her 63rd birthday. Though she only saw 61 years here on this earth, she lived each day of them to the fullest. There were times of turmoil, but many times of joy – especially spent with her family.

The love she had for her family was one of the greatest traits I believe she passed on to me. She taut me that though sometimes family might disappoint at times we still need to live and hold onto hope. Thanks, mom.

As we remember my mom on her birthday, I encourage you to take time to remember and love on your mom. You never know when that physical opportunity to will be gone. Take time today to build memories for when you can’t see them. There’s nothing in the world like an awesome, loving mom. I know from experience.

Mother’s Day Recap

Today was my first Mother’s Day as a lead pastor of a local church. I can say that today was an interesting day. I thought that I’d share a few thoughts that I had today.

  • People show up to church on Mother’s Day. I read this week that Mother’s Day is #3 on the top attended holidays of the year. People will join Momma at the church on this day. We has some visitors in our service on Mother’s Day. We also had a lot of people visiting with families away from our congregation. I take away from this that we should be prepared for an outreach opportunity on Mother’s Day.
  • Some people avoid church on Mother’s Day. There are just some that will not come to church on Mother’s Day. One of the big reasons is that they feel they have failed at motherhood, and the last thing they want to hear is how they should’ve done it better. Another big reason is the issue of infertility and miscarriages. This day opens wounds like no other for those who are in these situations. I’ll never forget the Mother’s Day after we miscarried our first child. The emotional roller coaster and flood was too much. We need to take time to understand why some people run away from the church on Mother’s Day.
  • Year 2. This was the second Mother’s Day where my mother was in heaven. For some reason, this year I thought about her much more. I spent a good deal of time this past week remembering the great mother that I was blessed with.
  • Thankful for the wonderful mother my children have. I definitely didn’t get to treat Naomi to all that I would have liked to. There were no big presents unless you count the garden that she’s been wanting. I did manage to grill seem steak and chicken for her tonight. I am so thankful that God gave my boys a mother that loves them unconditionally, fights for them, and who can be a great example for them to look to when they choose their mates one day (way down the road).
  • The Past Week

    The past week now seems like a blur. I remember heading to the local Wal-Mart to gather some materials for a game in our student ministry on January 23 when my cell phone rang. The lady on the other side said, “your mother has taken a turn for the worse and we cannot get her to respond.”

    Those are words that cut deep. I would spend 16 of the next 48 hours simply driving to take care of mom’s final arrangements with my sister. The words of encouragement through texts, emails, Facebook, and phone calls began to pour in.

    Finally Wednesday and Thursday mostly was spent remembering the mighty woman known to me, my sister, and later my wife as “mom”. All the holidays… the pride she had in her two little men (our sons)… her faith in Jesus and now reality that she is seeing Him face-to-face.

    The past week has been tough with mom’s trek to glory, but not as tough as I thought it would be. As a minister, I have taught many times about a Christian’s joy in death as they shed this body corrupted by sin and enter the eternal dwelling place prepared for them by Jesus (John 14:1-7). I guess it really hit home when my mom experienced this firsthand. It was also in this moment that I realized even more fully that this was not a sermon or lesson from a book… this was reality!

    On Sunday, January 23, my mom saw Jesus face-to-face. I will not see her face again this side of heaven except in memories and pictures. The Holy Spirit has truly ministered to our family through many avenues. To all who have been the arms of Christ extending His grace and encouragement for the moment, my family thanks you more than you know. Jesus, to You be all the glory and thank You for the time I had with mom and using her for Your glory.